Mambo and Death

When Mambo’s father passed away, he took advantage of a book which provided him with a lot of information on how to cope with the passing of a loved one.

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Whenever we are in our life, memory helps us see where we’ve been. We can look back on great moments as well as hard. We can think about life changing events, share influences and patterns. Memory helps us pull the parts of our life together and claim who we are. So we review our history and our memories in order to strengthen ourselves for whatever lies ahead.

Each one of us will remember different things or value different times of our lives. Remember together will expand our store of memories and draw us closer together. Even if the person we’re caring for isn’t able to communicate, we can sitting his or her presence and talk about memories. Our loved one leaves behind  legacy of memories that provides a source of continuing access to his or her presence, influence, stretch, guidance and love.

As long as our loved one is still with us, we can use our time together to make mew memories. Whatever we experience, whatever albums we look at, foods we book music we listen to, movies we watch, we’ll be making new memories of our time together in this journey.

“Death is not a medical event. Death is a spiritual event”. Even if we haven’t claimed religious beliefs or adopted spiritual practices, we experience a natural capacity for hope and reflection about what really matters, especially when death draws near.

When we anticipate separation from loved ones, we naturally feel an increased desire to interact with them and make every moment count. But we may find, some time before death actually comes, that our loved one begins to distance himself or herself from us. This process can occur gradually and in different ways.

As your loved one declines, he or she may become confused, mixing up details about who was here or when something happened. They may become confused about where they are or who others are. We recommend that if your loved one is pleasantly confused, don’t try to bring them pack into reality. Encourage him or her to speak slowly. If they are frightened, give gentle reassurance and tell them they are OK. Use your voice, eye contact and touch to maintain a supportive connection.

Caring for someone facing death matters so much to those who love him or her that the way we go through it together may color our future interactions with one another. Perhaps the best gift we can offer our loved one is to let him or her see that we’re pulling together through this experience.

Mambo’s Nephew

Mambo’s 2-year old nephew is so adorable.  About once a week he takes to his mother’s iPad and Facetimes his uncle.  Yes, the young lad is caught up with the latest technology.  It’s incredible how much they learn at such a young age!  So each morning once a week, Mambo gets a facetime call from nephew.  2-year olds tend to like repetition and so every time he calls, he makes the same requests.

He will ask to count the monkeys on his mantle.  Mambo has a strange obsession with monkeys and has about 8 types.  So they count them together one-by-one.  Then nephew asks to do it again.  He requests to see every little thing in the house, including a large stuffed dog on the sofa, Mambo’s car parked in the driveway, the clothes in the closet, the bathroom, picture frames, etc.

Nephew has been learning to swim for about a year and recently received his “intermediate aqua baby” ribbon for completion of the class and doing a fantastic job at swimming.  When Mambo was over the other day, nephew was super excited to show uncle his 3rd ribbon.

Nephew’s dad also recently built a play structure in the backyard for him, which he loves.  Every time Mambo comes by the house, he pulls uncle to the backyard and asks him to play at the play structure with him.  It’s a very cool structure with rock climbing, swings, a slide, telescope, and monkey bars.  Playing in his backyard is a great fun adventure for nephew.

When he’s not outdoors, he enjoys coloring in the many different coloring books that he owns– Mickey Mouse, Care Bears, Cars.  He also loves building the tracks for his train set and building blocks and magnet tiles.  Unfortunately, like most kids, like loves watching tv.  Mom tries to restrict it to mornings only and maybe 30 min in the afternoon if he is behaved for the day.

Whenever Mambo is over, he tried to help out with nephew’s bedtime.  Assisting him with his bath, brushing his teeth, helping him with the potty, putting him in his pajamas, reading him bedtime stories, and tucking him to sleep.  It is one of Mambo’s favorite time of the visit.  He absolutely loves bonding with his nephew.

Nephew will be 3-years old in a few months.  But that will be another story in itself.  Mom is preparing invitations and decorations.  For now, Mambo continues his weekly visits and face times with his adorable nephew.

 

Mambo’s Family is in Town

Mambo’s sister and nephews were in town and they had a blast while out for the week.  Several trips were made to Napa and Sonoma Valley for wine tasting, which Mambo’s sister is a great fan of.  They love Ehler’s Vineyard and Winery because of it’s charitable deeds where all proceeds from the sales of wines minus overhead costs go to heart research.  They walked away with 6 bottles of Cabernet Sauvignon.

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The nephews were taken to several cool locations for fun.  One trip was made to Children’s Fairyland in Oakland which is fabulous for young kids.  There was also a trip made to the Yerba Buena Museum in SF and the Discovery Museum in Sausalito, which has a mix of both indoor and outdoor activities.  All great places for kids to explore.

Of course we can’t forget the San Francisco Zoo, which the kids loved.  They absolutely loved seeing the elephants, giraffes, tigers, lions, bears, monkeys.

It was little Micky’s birthday this week and the whole family gathered to celebrate.  Mambo went out and got some fun little Disney “Cars” themed decorations to surprise Micky on his 3rd birthday.  He absolutely loved the car shaped candles and oversized balloons.  We finished the day off with games and a delicious raspberry lemon cake with the “Cars” decoration on top.

Micky received great presents from family, including a train set, Magformers, clothing, and other various creative and educational toys and books.

They also made a trip down to the Monterey Bay Aquarium and saw fish, sharks, jellyfish, turtles, and whole lot more!  They also spent part of the bay on the beach and enjoy play and splashing in the water and building sand castles.  They were also able to catch glimpses of sea lions resting on rocks by the pier.

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On the final day, they all took a city tour of San Francisco in a rented SUV which they rented through a limo company.  It was very convenient as they took trips over the Golden Gate Bridge to Marin for beautiful shots of the bridge and the city.  They also stopped by the Twin Towers for a spectacular view of San Francisco and the Bay Area.  Made a quick stop in Chinatown for lunch at a dim sum restaurant.  Then took off to Fisherman’s Wharf, the Coit Tower and the Ferry Building.  It was all-in-all a fun and exciting trip.

Mambo’s sister and nephews took off to Virginia this morning but have a camera full of memorable photos to remember the fun they had with Mambo.